That's kind of their problem, though.
But it can hurt, & it's tempting to change yourself to gain that tantalizing acceptance.
Don't give in.
I'll get real here, I was let go from my last job before I started my biz. It was a big deal job and I cared about it deeply. How it happened wasn't fair, life's not fair & my clients have followed me, so I think that says something.
While it felt out of the blue, looking back, though, there were clear 🚯
Everything I felt good about, everything I felt I was doing right, was consistently shut down through the entire year. It started when I was moved to a new division; #yeg politics & all that.
I'm a curious person & kept an open mind. I know I don't know everything, & maybe I needed to apply myself to learning. I asked questions, asked for resources, confirmed if I was on the right path. I google researched so many things!
But just when I was getting close to understanding, the tables would turn on me. I would be wrong again. And again. Or so I was told.
When training a dog, they must be given cues for good behaviour so they understand what you want. If you just punish them for doing something wrong, but never show them what you are asking for, they start to stop listening to you. They begin to learn that you are there to confuse and punish them, and that's all they know.
I began to get very quiet in meetings. I didn't speak up, I didn't stick my neck out. I lost my passion for the work, because even if my clients loved me, the person responsible for my career growth found me lacking.
It took me a year to realize that I wasn't bad at the work, or unsuitable like I thought. I was allowing someone to dull my shine so they weren't threatened by it's glow. My ideas were good. My work was good. & here's the kicker: I am not just good. I'm pretty fucking brilliant sometimes. I'm ferocious & I'm passionate & I'm never done. To some people, that's really threatening.
I started to realize that, thanks to some helpful observers who watched me wilt. I began to push back.
2 weeks later, I was let go. It was amazing. It was painful. It was necessary.
Sometimes you need to Jenga your life, or it will be done for you!
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned throughout the course of the program is that things don’t always go according to plan. Today I was planning on posting about my favorite places in town. The winters here can be pretty brutal and combined with an artistic practice that keeps me indoors, staying mentally healthy is key to keeping myself motivated. There are a handful of places that I frequent to find inspiration and comfort. On my walk into town, I was on the crosswalk when a car turned onto the street I was crossing and hit me (I’m fine). She kept driving. I was shocked, angry-still am. I ended up sitting on a bench for a few minutes in silence. Shit happens. I wasn’t planning on sharing this footage with anyone. Last year I was experimenting with an untested bolex camera that was gifted to me. I shot a roll sent it off for processing and to my dismay, the images I shot are unrecognizable. It’s frustrating. Here I was with plans for this footage and I ended up with nothing. —Mel. (Melani Lopez, iTi class of 2019 @photoboss_mel ) #shithappens#pocartist#imfine#16mm#planscancelled
Yup...I didn't show up yesterday. I have been all over the place this week not knowing if I am coming or going. Tonight I almost lost it because I couldn't find my phone and didn't know where I put the cookie money. And when I say lost it, I mean almost broke put in a full blown cry. At that moment I realized I needed to stop and breath. In that moment I realized I haven't been taking care of myself this week (not to mention my lovely "friend" decided to pay a visit today). My eating has been all out of wake, our schedules have been crazy, and just don't have my shit together this week. It happens!!
Tonight I got in two workouts and I feel so much better (tho my energy level is low)! My goal this weekend is to take time for myself, relax and breath.
Wait for it....Yep that is my mailbox, or Was my mailbox... 2:35am. Hmm. Doesn’t take Sherlock Holmes to figure out what happened. The busted car was in the driveway 2 houses down... I was nice about it. I’ve made bad choices & didn’t want to put him thru the wringer. He cleaned it up & is making it right. #shithappens He’s pretty lucky it was just my mailbox... I think he was dumbstruck when we told him it was on video. #security#camera I think it’s hilarious video. #funny
We all make mistakes. We mistakingly assign value judgments to things and sometimes we commit errors when performing tasks. We are, after all, human and so we are fallible. .
If we do not learn from our mistakes, we tend to repeat them. On the other hand, sometimes we make the mistake of trying to hard to avoid making mistakes, which almost always results in us making the mistake we feared making in the first place because we remove ourselves from the present moment and subject ourselves to anxiety - mental anguish. .
Cicero uses the label “idiot” to drive this point home. In ancient times, an idiot was simply someone who lacked wisdom - someone who was ignorant. Ignorant to the extent he did not know. So, the objective here is to learn from our mistakes; that is, to become aware of them (to have knowledge of them) and then to avoid repeating the same mistakes over and over again..
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, the circumstances, the failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past, we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you, we are in charge of our attitudes. - Charles Swindoll
In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what happens within us.
Life isn’t fair MOST of the time. I used to be one who complained and became aggravated over things that happened to me that were out of my control.
But that’s they key right there🔑 . When things are out of your control, there is absolutely no benefit to getting upset about it.
Instead, become self aware and ask yourself how can you benefit from this situation? How can you grow during these circumstance that aren’t ideal?. With patience, understanding and reflection comes wisdom and growth🌱 .
Dann will ich euch berichten wie ich zur Depression kam... Im Nachhinein gesehen hätte ich es kommen sehen müssen, aber Nein das habe ich nicht!
Ich stand mitten im Leben!
Hatte meine Ausbildung abgeschlossen, einen gut bezahlten Job, eine tolle Wohnung und eine wundervolle Familie (mein Mann, Ich und Charly 🐈) Wir waren glücklich, alles schön perfekt.
Aber der Schein kann auch mal trügen.
Ich habe zu der Zeit viel gearbeitet und hatte viel um die Ohren. Abends bin ich immer ins Bett gefallen und nicht gegangen.
Was ich zu der Zeit nicht bemerkte war, dass mein Körper und meine Seele Ruhe brauchten.
An einem heißen Tag im August war es dann soweit, mein Körper hat beschlossen mir jegliche Unachtsamkeit die ich ihm habe zukommen lassen, mir zurück zu geben, mit voller Wucht!!!
Es fing an mit starker Unruhe, Übelkeit und innerem Zittern.
Ich wusste nicht wie mir geschah. Ich hatte solche Angst. Was ist denn nur los?
Hmmm ich hatte eine Angststörung (eine generalisierte Angststörung) mit Panikattacken entwickelt.
Häää wie kommt sie denn jetzt zu einer Angststörung, sie wollte uns doch erzählen wie es zur Depression kam?
Ja meine Lieben das werde ich noch, nur ist es ein „kleiner“ Weg bis dahin.
Die Tage mehr davon.
Photo made by JuliaLangemannfotografie
Today's Truth Bomb 💣 things get thrown your way to make you stronger. Have you noticed that some of the strongest people have overcome the most adversity?
Yes, people are like diamonds, we become strong under pressure.
While it would be great if things ran smoothly in your love life, often it's the crabby times or the shit that happens that causes you to shift! Only after things don't go well do you have to reflect on what just happened. It helps you clarify what you really do need and want!
I know this happened to me and still happens when things don't go as I hoped or planned. It forces me to reflect to ask, now what? It's through my failures that I gain clarity and then I have to pivot!
Life is about how you handle the shit that happens to you. First, you have to sit with the discomfort, the uncomfortable corners of your life and all the feelings that come with it. Sometimes you would rather avoid them.
But the beauty is that when you see what it is, there is clarity on the other side. In relationships maybe I wasn’t ready and thought I wanted something casual but it turns out I am ready. I want something real!
Then you pivot or shift. You change because what you were doing isn't working for you. It's about being flexible and changing or unlocking yourself.
What do you need to shift? .